Signs Your Dating A Mama’s Boy
March 18, 2012 11 Comments
Dating a “Mama’s Boy” can be a double edged sword.
On one hand these guys make good significant others if you believe in the old adage that you can tell how a man will treat you by the way he treats his mother. These men are normally attentive and considerate and value women in general. On the other hand, you will probably tire of always being in second place to his Mother’s needs and wishes.
Is dating a “Mama’s Boy” worth it? Maybe. If you choose to pursue a relationship with a man who won’t cut the umbilical cord, you must fully accept the fact that he is a “Mama’s Boy” for the long term. It is true that blood is thicker than water and if this man is forced into making a decision, it isn’t Mama who is going to be packing her bags. To fully accept the lifestyle of a “Mama’s Boy” you must be psychologically comfortable with the fact that nothing you will ever do will be as good as the way his Mother does it, nothing you ever cook will be as good as how his Mother cooks it. Your dedication and skill in caring for your home will never measure up to his Mother’s techniques. To survive a relationship with him, you must be prepared to spend all of your free time with his Mother and not complain about not doing the other things you would rather be doing.
If your “Mama’s Boy’s” mama really cares about her son, she will treat you with respect and respect the boundaries of your relationship with her son. She will appreciate your relationship with her son and consider your needs as well as her own. If she can’t do that, then your relationship probably won’t make it.
It is the role of your MAN to establish the boundaries with his mother. If he is unable to do this or to “whipped” to do this, it is best not to enter a relationship with this man. Nothing you can do will change the situation.
The Red Flags that He Is a Mamma’s Boy
If you listen very carefully on those first few dates, you will soon learn if your date is a “Mama’s Boy”. There are some subtle and early red flags:
- If a man excuses himself during your first few dates “to call his mother”, he is probably a Mama’s boy.
- On your first or second date, he talks excessively about his mother. If you attempt to make plans with him, he says he has to call his mother first.
- If your man is contemplating a big decision or considering buying a large ticket item but says he can’t act until he gets his mother’s opinion, he is most likely a “Mama’s boy.”
- If your date cancels out on your date because his mother needs him to do something, run!
- If your date is very pushy and requesting you meet his mother too soon before you are even a couple, he is probably under pressure to get her approval of you before he gets too involved. Run!
- One obvious sign that your date has an unhealthy attachment to his mother is if his phone or computer screen reveals a picture of his mom or he and his mother together.
- For some reason or another, if his mother is in your day to day conversations, you probably have a problem.
- If his Mom is still doing his laundry for him, he is probably a “Mama’s Boy.”
- If your date stops at his mother’s house daily to eat, or if she brings him his meals and cleans for him, he is a “Mama’s Boy.”
- If your beau calls his mother about every detail about your relationship, calls her after every disagreement you have, or shares intimate information about your dating details or relationship, this is a big indicator he is a “Mama’s Boy.”
- The most damaging sign that he is a “Mama’s Boy” is if he takes her side on issues and does not defend YOU if need be. It does not matter if he is afraid of her or of hurting his Mama’s feelings, you should always be his first priority. If your man isn’t willing to put you first, the relationship will not make it.
lol i don’t see what’s so bad about this..a man wants a woman to resemble his mother to a certain degree because we look at our mothers as perfection.
No man wants an immature girl men want a woman a real women who knows how to take care of him and the house with ease the way his mother did.
Some women nowadays are just very lazy and just expected everything handed to them without them carrying any weight around the house/relationship…
let the hate begin lol :bandit:
Very useful tips for spotting them, and I can relate. Especially the last line made me cringe a bit. When I was dating my ex, I made the mistake of telling his parents that he was moving in with me, and an argument between me and his mother ensued– all while my ex sat there quietly watching us, too afraid to step in. I should have taken that as a major red flag, but I was only about 21 at the time (and very naive).
I could add a few more to the list:
*He makes sure to give his mother a gift for special occasions that he spent just as much on as if he shopped for you. Or you might be shocked at the extremes he’ll go to to please her with gifts or favors.
*He will compare you to his mother, in cooking skills, arguing skills (his mother has a sweet voice that you couldn’t get mad at), and parenting skills– and you will look like the slacker no matter what. After all, his mother held a full time job, came home to clean the house, cook dinner and still watched the kids while her husband sat on the couch watching TV. And she would bring him a beer, too.
*He won’t praise you for all the loving acts you do, but he’ll have a few examples of kind gestures his mother did for his dad (that YOU don’t do).
*After you break up, he will tell his family and friends how “unappreciated” he was during the entire marriage, even though you spent your waking days pedestalizing him. Behind the scenes will be his mother, telling him how “that” woman never deserved him. She might have even encouraged him to break up with you.
I could go on, but it brings up bad memories. I’m just lucky to be free of my baggage known as the “momma’s boy.” Unfortunately, he now defends his mother against our kids, and that CHAPS MY HIDE!
Excellent pointers for women to watch out for! I know some mama’s boys but never dated or married them
can’t there just be a sensitive bad boy? I sign up to have one of those delivered to my house lol
this is a no go in my book
as long as there is a boundary they’re not that bad. They are really sweet but like i said there is a line that shouldn’t be crossed. So maybe just a sprinkle of a “mamas boy” is allowed lol
oh well deal with it :p
lol you’re funny
we’re not all bad..don’t judge
some men i mean “boys” need to step they game up plain and simple it’s 2012 come on fellas
mmm I’m not understanding this ..women say that they want a man with a good relationship with their mother. We’ll us “mamas boys” have great relationships with our mothers but yet were critized for it. Can’t win for losing. #MakeUpUrMind